Am back!!

hi all!!
in case any one is actually following :P
Am Back!
Just hoping to be more regular in posting new stuff..
Since the time i made this blog.. lots of events kept me preoccupied.. My wedding.. then my brother's wedding.. n then i became a mommy :) yup.. i have a cute little daughter now.. Who am sure would love to read my blog when she grows up and probably make her own.. SO till she grows up.. :)
i would like to fill my blog with interesting stuff :P
Today's time is up.. as i have time to surf till she takes her afternoon nap.. she is just 4 months old..

Hmmm.. what else.. I forgot the name of my blog..it had been so long since i signed in for this.. :)
Anyways.. nothing much as of now.. lets see what i plan to post next.. atleast i started with som blah today :P

Tc!  

Am getting nervous.. trying to be perfect..

I m lost.....n i walk alone

where do i belong...

Ohhh.. Ohh...
Life doesn't promise a bed of roses Or white knights Fields of emotions
I'm trapped in darkness Why me Save me To win this twisted war inside me
Won't justify the pain
 Life doesn't promise a bed of roses
 Lightening strikes the pages keep on turning
Help me to be strong
I'm floating in a sea of strange believers
Where do I belong?
Ohhh.. Ohh...
 They paint a picture of perfect nowhere blue skies
Within every lie there's a web of comfort -- For them -- Not me
 To win this twisted war inside me
Won't justify the pain
 They paint you a picture of perfect nowhere I said now
Lightening strikes the pages keep on turning Help me to be strong
I'm floating in a sea of strange believers
Where do I belong? Where do we go from here?
 I wish I would disappear I'm a lonely soul So far from home
Yeah, yeah, yeah..
 Lightening strikes the pages keep on turning Help me, help me
I'm floating in a sea of strange believers Where do I.. I said Lightening strikes,
I said lightening strikes Floating in a sea of strange believers
Where do I belong?

Are people quick to praise.. slower to criticize?

How would you like it!?
My friend exclaimed 'Hey wow.. You have made my fav dish for dinner!! thats so thoughtful of you..You care for everyone's choices so well..' n smiled with glee.. then continued.. but now i have abstained from eating fatty stuff..so cant have it..Am sorry!!..but can taste how you ve made it!'..


It could have been- ' Hey you could have asked me before making dinner.. I dont like it anymore duh!! And do you have any idea how much of fat it has..! I could clog my arteries with that fat!!! you dont care about others at all..'


Be it any living environment.. be it any human relation.. Has it ever been noticed that are ppl Quick to praise or are they quicker to criticze..? n when it comes to praising.. They keep it in mind.. but dont express it.. or they say it later that 'ya.. the speech that day you had given was nice..'.. 
Parents/Grand parents to children..Teacher to student.. boss to employee.. spouse to the better half.. friends amongst eachother.. Why is it that the points to criticize are noticed and highlighted first.. 
Is criticizing considered as the best way to improve someone..? Yes it is healthy indeed.. it guides and inspires the one who is criticzed to do things in a better way.. But is it healthy if the criticism is persistent.. Is it healthy not to notice and to overlook the points that are worth praising.. Criticism can be made healthy if as i feel.. the way criticism is put forward doesnt create misunderstandings..
 Often, during the course of our professional and personal lives, there come situations when we cannot help but point out mistakes. Criticisms are never welcome, but we can soften the blow with the following tips.

• Criticize in a friendly manner. Preferably allow a compliment to precede criticism.

• Respect the target of your criticism, always criticize privately in person..take care that even texts and phone conversations may create confusion..

• Criticize the act not the person.. 'You are a wonderful and talented artist..Have loved so many of your works..The latest creation needs a bit more of a touch up on the lady's face near the cheeks i suppose.. would make it much symmetrical.. what do you feel..?'.. 

   It shouldnt be.. ' You have deteriorated with your potential to create good art work.. What has happened to you! you had made such nice paintings  earlier.. How could you make the face look so distorted!'

• Offer a solution with the criticism, for instance while pinpointing a wrong also show what is right, so the communication remains positive and focused on the act rather than the person.

• Always end the criticism with a friendly note. A positive tone and body language is crucial to clear the air of any misunderstanding..

And last but not the least.. try finding positive and praise-able work of the person and encourage them saying.. 'you do that so well.. am sure you can do this well too...' ;)

Make sure the criticism doesnt hurt or depresses some one.. the criticism is for the betterment of others.. it should be in a way that it encourages not discourages..

When you are about to criticize anybody – STOP – think of one relevant positive trait in that person and spell it out honestly and then – use the burger method.

My Life

There were moments when i felt alone
There were moments when all were gone...
When I had no clue..
To why my mind was so blue...

I had to step ahead..
Come out of my shell..
Being safe at home..
Never thought the world out could be a swell..

But all that pomp and show..
was not the cup of tea for me..
I had always been..
The one whose only best friend was me..

Was there a happier life..
I always thought..
Content in my own little world..
Never expected anything more than what i got..

Phases of life i went through..
I recall them all as time flew..
With memories so harsh and sad..
Sprinkled with some moments of joy..

Came in the day..
When i met my LIFE for which i always pray..
May there be a reason for all to live
As i have, May to all, God give..

My life was never the same..
For any sorrow or pain..
I got the courage to go through..
As you held my hand....My Life
I realised the true bliss
that till now i had missed...
:)

relive old days!

Its something that everyone would long for... To relive the old happy days.. The days of school life..
When sharing our tiffins was the only part of the day we used to wait for.. participating in auditions for stupid funny play acts just for the heck of getting to bunk some boring class (yes i had done that).. mimicking the teachers.. playing pranks on classmates.. and crib about the school rules all day long :) .. complain abt the boys troubling the girls.. etc etc.. wat days.. Ve so many memorable moments.. N in all those later years of school.. when the excitment of going to college was the latest discussion everywhere around.. Everybody was like so damn serious.. preparing for entrance exams to get thru a good university.. That was the time i realised there s nothing one would have if one doesnt study in a good college or doesnt study some good money minting course or some course that adds status  :P ... N it was set in my mind that.. thats the only thing thats important in life at present :) STUDY..

I was never studious.. during school i used to participate in sports, dramas, drawing competitions.. etc etc..n was just average in studies.. then when i realsied thaat i need to put in more into studies with time all these extracurricular stuff just ended abruptly (PS.. really dont know how few ppl manage being good in both these stuffs but i was just good if i held onto any one).. All i did was study day n night..
:) n i started loving being like that.. It was kind of easy for me u see.. u just ve to sit at one corner.. n then read n write, read n write n read n write...n then read n go n write in the exams;p... n i became sooo good at it..  that wat else.. my craze of wearing specs came as a boon to me ( that was the silliest craze i had i think).. Added on to my looking studious :P ..

And now wen i am all free from studies.. all i want to do is study more... coz the spark to do other stuff like drawing.. dancing.. mimicking.. all has faded.....with time......